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1. Sticks and stones wont break my bones and words wont leave any measurable physical damage, but they will cause progressive, long-term harm. Never underestimate the power of words: words are used to brainwash.

Being told you are stupid, ugly, lazy or worthless is never acceptable. The first times you hear it, it will hurt, naturally. In time you may get used to hearing it from a partner. Thats when you start to internalise and believe it. When that happens you are doing the other persons work of putting you down for them. This is why your feelings of self-worth suffer increasingly over time.

The good news is that just as words have been used to bring you down, you can learn to harness the power of words to build you up and restore your confidence and belief in yourself.

2. You are always told that its your fault. Somehow, whatever happens, however it starts, the ultimate blame is always yours. Notice that we are talking ultimate blame here. The blaming partner will always tell you that their behaviour was caused by what you said or did. In fact, their argument runs along the lines that you cant possibly blame them for anything, because if you hadnt said what you said, or done what you did it would never have happened.

3. Youre more inclined to believe your partner than you are to believe yourself. Have you ever reeled with a sense of hurt and injustice, or seethed with anger at the way youve been treated? Have you found yourself asking: Is it reasonable to feel like this? Am I misinterpreting things? Have I got it wrong?

If this is you, what it means is that you have become so brainwashed youve stopped trusting in your own judgement. Your mind keeps throwing up the observations and questions because, deep down, you know that what is happening is utterly wrong. But right now you cant feel the strength of your own convictions.

4. You need your partner to acknowledge your feelings. Have you ever felt desperate to make your partner hear what you are saying and apologise for the hurtful things theyve said? Have you ever felt that only they can heal the pain theyve caused?

Does your need for them to validate your feelings keep you hooked into the relationship?

When a partner constantly denies or refuses to listen to your feelings, that is, unquestionably, mental abuse.

5. Your partner blows hot and cold. He can be very loving but is often highly critical of you. He may tell you how much he loves you, yet he is short on care or consideration towards you. In fact, some of the time, maybe even a lot of the time, he treats you as if you were someone he truly dislikes.

You do everything you can to make him happy, but its never good enough. Youre more like the pet dog in the relationship than you are the equal partner. Your constant efforts to get his attention and please him meet with limited success. Sometimes hell be charmed, often hes dismissive.

If you find yourself puzzling about how your partner can treat you that way, it is because you are trying to live in a love-based relationship, when in reality you are living in a control-based relationship. The mental abuser struggles with his own feelings of worthlessness and uses his relationship to create a feeling of personal power, at his partners expense.

6. You feel as if you are constantly walking on eggshells. There is a real degree of fear in the relationship. You have come to dread his outbursts, the hurtful things that he will find to say to you. (Maybe the same anxiety and need to please spill over into your other relationships also.)

Fear is not part of a loving relationship, but it is a vital part of a mentally abusive relationship. It enables the abuser to maintain control over you.

7. You can heal. Mentally abusive relationships cause enormous emotional damage to the loving partner who tries, against all odds, to hold the relationship together and, ultimately, cant do it, because her partner is working against her.

Whether you are currently in a mentally abusive relationship, have left one recently, or years later are still struggling with the anxieties and low self-worth and lack of confidence caused by mental abuse, it is never too late to heal.

But you do need to work with a person or a programme specifically geared to mental abuse recovery.

Women who have suffered mental abuse expect radical change of themselves, and they expect it right away. This is why they often struggle and, not uncommonly, take up with another abusive partner.

Mental abuse recovery is a gradual process. Low self-worth and limiting beliefs about what kind of future the abuse sufferer can ever hope for are the blocks that can stop women from moving on. But they are blocks that you can clear very effectively. Just as language was once used to harm you, you can now learn how language can heal you. You can overcome past mental abuse and keep yourself safe from it in the future. You can also learn to feel strong, believe in yourself and create the life and the relationships you truly want.

The Woman You Want To Be is a unique workbook designed to accompany you on a year long journey into emotional health and happiness.

(C) 2005 Annie Kaszina

Joyful Coaching

An NLP Practitioner and Women's Empowerment Coach, Annie specialises in helping women heal the trauma of the past, so they can enjoy the present and look forward to the future.

Email:annie@EmotionalAbuseRecoveryNow.com To subscribe to Annie's twice monthly ezine, or order her ebook cover 'The Woman You Want To Be, go: to http://www.EmotionalAbuseRecoveryNow.com

Here's an interesting thought - Everything comes back to selling. Think about that for a second. The world revolves around sales. Every business regardless of what they do, has to sell. Every person sells. You sell your favorite anal movies, favorite books, favorite restaurants, favorite shoes. You even sell yourself on ideas and thoughts.

Here's another interesting thought: Most people hate the very idea of the salesperson, yet we all fall under that category in one fashion or another.

The question is: How do I embrace my inner salesperson?

Acknowledge that you sell on a continuous basis in your day to day life.

Admit it. You do it. You just don't think of it as selling.

Hmmmm - Sharing. Replace the word selling with sharing. There. That feels better doesn't it? Isn't funny how changing a word can alter your perspective? When it was selling, you shuddered. Now that it's sharing, you feel all warm and fuzzy. We all like to share - we like to share our things, our thoughts, our ideas, our favorites, ourselves. Stop and think about that for a moment..... It's the same thing.

Choose a new thought.

When you choose to think of selling as sharing, it shifts the way you feel about it. When you feel empowered by something you will be more successful at it. For all of you who own businesses or work for a business (that would be everyone), this is vital.

-What thoughts do you entertain around selling?
-What new thought might you choose instead?
-What is one thing that you can do today to embrace your new thought?

"People don't care about what you have to say until you care about what they have to say"

How true is that? Think about that for a moment - It is part of our nature as humans to want to be heard. Most people go through life just trying to be understood and when we are around someone who truly listens to us it is a breath of fresh air. And, what do we want to do? We want to be around those people as much as possible. Be part of their inner circle. We talk about them to everyone we know because they are the most genuine authentic people. They really hear us.

When we own a business or represent a business, we need to truly be in touch with what our clients need. We need to know what their challenges are, what they are excited about, who they are, so that we know how to best serve them. The only way to do this is to listen.

Listening is one of the best ways to sell. If you are in touch with your potential customer/client you will know how to work with them and create a win-win situation.

Be In Service of Others

Building on listening, let's go into service. I'm not just talking about excellent service on the part of us, our business/product, I'm talking about being IN service of others.

When meeting another person for the first time, do you screen them for potential customer status? That's a given. What about if they do not have a remote chance of being in need of you or your product? Do you write them off and move on to the next one?

What would happen if you looked at each person in terms of what you can do for them instead of what they can do for you?

Think of the people that you really like to do business with. -What characteristics do they embody? -How much of their success do you feel is in direct proportion to their ability to listen and really help you?

My challenge to you:

Practice really listening to everyone you connect with this week and find one way that you can be in service of them that exceeds their expectations.

Suzy Strempke, certified core energy coach, is the owner of Growth In Action - Empowerment Coaching and Training. She is passionate about empowering women to build successful businesses while maintaining healthy and fulfilling personal lives. She helps her clients get "in action" for what they want most for themselves and leads them to bust through internal blocks that are holding them back. A successful entrepreneur for more than five years with Sensaria Natural Bodycare, Suzy enjoys educating women about the value of self-care, nurturing rituals, good skin care and ingredient awareness. For more information please visit http://www.growthinaction.com

Hair loss reaches its final state when reaching baldness. I am sure you have seen many bald people on the street or in different places near you. The question now rising is: what causes baldness?

Baldness is also known, in medical terms, as Alopecia. For males, the manifestation of alopecia is characterized by hair falling from the sides of the forehead. In addition to this, many subjects can also present a bald patch on the top of their heads. The responsible party for this type of baldness, also known as androgenetic alopecia, is no other than DHT. This is a hormone that controls hair growth; it can affect the hair and also the prostate. Scientists dont understand yet why is this hormone affecting the scalp this way. Signs of its manifestations can appear for the first time during puberty or in the late twenties in most of the cases.

This hormonal problem is in most of the cases genetic. The genetic factor is the one indicating if you will be ATK Hairy Gallery or bald. So all you have to do now is look at your family, and if your father or grandfather is bald, you will probably be too.

This type of hair loss is conditioned and permanent and there are few chances to prevent it. The market offers many solutions for this problem but none have yet shown 100% efficient. A study made in the US showed that five subjects out of twenty using Propecia obtained considerable results after one year of using the product.

Another permanent manifestation is Alopecia Areata. This causes hair to fall on different areas of your entire body, including the head. Other types of hair loss are temporary or provoked.

Traction Alopecia is present on people who wear their hair in a ponytail or harm the hair brushing it intensely. You can imagine yourself that pulling hard on your hair everyday is not a good choice.

Infections, especially mycotic infections can cause hair to fall intensely. Medical advice is welcome in this case. Any mistreatment of the scalp can lead to devastating effects. On areas of your body where you find sebaceous cysts, you are most likely to experience hair loss. This will span over 2-3 weeks depending on case. Other factors causing temporary hair falling are stress and dehydration. If you have a busy job and you do not have time to take care of your health you will experience hair loss so the best way to keep your beauty is protecting it.

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